“I never thought one year could be so hard.
That in one year I could bring others so much pain.
When will it stop? They say “give it time, everything will be fine”,
…but that ‘light’ shining bright to set me free seems so far away. Sometimes I question if it’s even real. Everything was easier before this year.”
I picked up an old journal tonight.
A journal from 2009. I was 17.
And when I opened it up, what’s written in italics above was written on the page…
I remember that year well. 2009 was 1 year after a significant event in my life came out of the shadows, and brought to an end.
And although it was certainly a good thing it ended, it was also painful. Incredibly painful.
Why am I sharing this? Because it’s ‘World Mental Health Day’.
Those who are dearly close to me, know exactly what that time was about. And if you’re not close to me (like Mother and Father, best best friend close to me) you wouldn’t have a clue.
I’ll keep it that way for now. It’s something I want to write about some other time in depth (if I can summon up the right words)… But what I want to share today is this:
That pain, is pain, is pain.
We all feel it and we all experience it in different ways. And I’m a big believer in not comparing ones hurt and self-struggles to another. Because no matter how big or small — we all have a story, and I believe that one powerful force that binds us together is the ‘hard times’ we feel.
I’m not a pessimist, maybe I once used to be, but ever since I did find that light I once thought was so far out of reach… (or didn’t exist at all), I believe our pain brings BIG magic. 💕 ✨
We can either choose to be a ‘victim’ of it, or take power, lean in, and listen to the lesson it’s teaching us.
I’m a big believer that there’s a silver lining in the pain we endure.
I’ve said it before in a previous post, that I believe there’s always something great you can learn from your experiences, and when you decide to take control of how you feel and not let the experience take over, it can be pretty damn empowering.
Here’s just a few of the things I noticed when I took hold of the reigns:
- A renewed appreciation for the value of life — helping me to live more fully, and truly enjoy the moment, as it is, right NOW.
- I become even stronger than I thought I was capable of. With an enhanced sense of resilience, personal strength and confidence to make it through anything. Nothing, and I repeat NOTHING, shocks me anymore.
- I’m able to say yes and act on new possibilities that may not have entered my life otherwise.
- I’ve created stronger bonds with others, through compassion, empathy and love.
- Compassion is a new superpower.
- I see situations from different angles.
- I don’t hold a grudge.
- I’m able to take responsibility and trust in myself to make the right decision, on my terms, for me.
- Heck, I think I could even write a book…
What I want to say is that no matter what you’re going through right now, millions of others feel pain too. It’s impossible to be alone, no matter how secluded and lonely battles with your mental health can seem… You’re not.
We all go through ups and downs. Even when you feel you’ve reached the other side, sometimes it’ll trip you up and smack you in the face when you least expect it. But at least this time round you’ll be able to pick yourself up a lot faster, and will be armed with the tools to heal a lot quicker.
Just know that’s ok!
Be kind to yourself, lovely. You’ve got this. I know you have.
Be kind to others, you never know what part of their story they’re going through either.
Someday you’ll look back like I am today and you’ll think to yourself, “I’m proud of me”…
Life is good 🙂
Big squeezy hugs and love, ❤️